Let's have a party!!!

[gingerschnapps]

It's the time of year when moods are crashing.  The days are short, the weather is miserable, Wintermas looms on the horizon with all its stresses, frustrations, and problems.  At the suggestion of the lovelystaranise , it's time to have a [mental health] Downswing Party!!!

By which I mean, come on over and:

• complain. go ahead. let it all out. anon comments are screened if you'd prefer other people don't read it (tho if you want me to know who YOU are, signing is good) I won't tell, I won't think you're pathetic, I won't think at you "other people have real problems and you don't". Promise. Also, I will only unscreen YOUR comment if you tell me it's cool. Otherwise, your secret is safe with me.
   
• yell at your mood disorder of choice - MDD, Bipolar, PTSD, anxiety, whatever - anything that's currently fucking you up. The world, maybe. Or your meds! While there is a community for that, it can be fun to do it some more.
   
• post funny cartoons, macros and pictures of cute kittens, great stories you found, instances of people not sucking, hilarious gifs and other things (if it's nsfw, put it behind a link and note it and follow charitable warning systems - we're not here to make people feel WORSE after all).
   
• talk about things that make you happy, no matter how much you swear other people don't care about them.
   
• ask other people who might be reading about other stuff.
  
  There's metaphorical tea, although I cannot recommend highly enough making yourself a cup of tea/coffee/tisane/hot chocolate/hot milk/whatever as a calming, soothing exercise. I'd turn on some music, except I do not know how to make a playlist show up in your computer. ANYWAY.
  
  The only rules are EVERYONE PLAY NICE. If you DEFINITELY don't want any unsolicited internet advice, just stick "NO ADVICE" in your subject line. Even if someone doesn't have that, please offer advice politely, as a suggestion, and with the assumption that the person you are talking to is an intelligent human being. I would like to reemphasize this. Don't phrase it "you should look into X". Phrase it as "have you looked into X?"
  
  Ready? GO.

(points shamelessly borrowed fromrecessional )

Comments

[elizabeth]

I'm late but I was doing pretty fucking good until this morning. So. Have some fresh tea-or-cocoa on me, everyone.

I don't want to talk about specifics, but let's just say that my life, in the abstract, is going pretty well. And then -- I hate that the good things in my life, like being saner and braver than I was, lead me to try to do things that I'm not good at (yet) and I screw up because I am doing new unfamiliar things and then I am back in the same old pattern of feeling destroyed by not being perfect. This is a pattern at work and at home right now; less of a problem at work right this second, but it's been enough of an issue in the past that I don't doubt it's a pattern I'm going to need to cope with in the future (and I'm currently not happy about my coworkers and my boss, the latter of whom I am beginning to suspect plays favorites and the former of whom I think harbors sexist opinions about me). At home, it's social anxiety and introversion combining with usual roommate stuff to make me actively not want to be in my apartment ever, and I just renewed my sublet lease, and I feel like I have no space or power, all I can do is cower and apologize and be smaller and take up less room and be more invisible.

[quartzpebble]

/me waves, takes the cocoa

Not-quite-changed patterns are so hard and frustrating to deal with.